“Of all sad words of tongue or pen,
the saddest are these, It might have
been.”
It was 158 years ago when
On April 9, 1865 General Robert E.
Lee surrendered to Lieutenant
General Ulysses S. Grant formally ending
the Civil War and abolishing slavery
forever, and just six years later the greatest
president in our history was assassinated
after leading our nation through it's darkest hours.
Destiny? Certainly Lincoln had premonitions of his upcoming
death. If George Washington was the Father
of America then Abraham Lincoln
was most certainly the Soul of America
sent to the promised land in our hour of most need. In the end he gave everything including his
life to save a struggling nation and make it a beacon to the rest of the world
with a Constitution guaranteeing
individual freedom and equal opportunity.
Robert Burns inspired other people besides Whittier .
Burns lived during the American (1776) and French (1789) revolutions and
greatly admired those people who would challenge the powerful monarchies that
controlled them. A prolific poet
and lyricist, his poem
and song "Auld Lang Syne" is sung throughout the world as New Year
dawns. Born January 25, 1759 he died
July 21, 1796 when he was just 37 years old.
American novelist John Steinbeck
used Burn's works for the title of his 1937 novel "Of Mice and Men." When asked for the source of his greatest
creative inspiration, singer and songwriter Bob Dylan selected Burn's 1794 song "A Red, Red Rose" as
the lyric that had the biggest effect on his life. Author
J. D. Salinger borrowed from Burn's poem "Comin' Through the Rye"
for his 1951 novel "The Catcher in the Rye."
Even I was drawn to Burns and his wonderful talent when I discovered that a
distant Scottish relative, Mary
Campbell, was one of his first loves and the subject of several early poems. Their relationship was the subject of much
conjecture and it has been suggested that on May 14, 1786 they exchanged Bibles
and "plighted their troth over the Water of Fail" in a traditional
Scottish wedding.
In August of the same year she was caring for her brother who had typhus
and caught the disease herself eventually dying at the age of 23 in Campbeltown , Scotland ,
an ancient town founded by my ancestors of the Campbell clan.
At any rate, while the historical perspective is interesting it is the
poignant, melancholy and sentimental words of Whittier one should ponder. What do they mean in your life? Are they your final testament because you did
not have the courage to follow your heart instead of your mind? Or can you still escape from the sadness of
knowing something might have been?
Perhaps you never had a choice in the matter. Over and over in my life things happened, not
of my making or doing, that radically altered my life, shattered my dreams or broke
my heart. Some were my fault or choice,
others were when I was a victim of the cruel hand of fate.
Some were big and others were small yet they all were definitive lessons
that I really wished I didn't have to learn.
Don't get me wrong or feel sorry for me, they were my path, not yours,
and I am certain there was some kind of mystical or spiritual reason for the
experience.
I remember once I spent years with a childhood friend and classmate before
I realized his older sister was my soul
mate. It was something I never
expected. She was the most beautiful
girl I ever knew and I was always amazed at how the older boys were lined up to
take her out. She was also very smart,
talented and worked hard to hide her many attributes.
For some reason, perhaps my lack of discretion or desire to talk to everyone,
or the fact I never beat around the bush but always was frank, honest and kept
conversations in total confidence, she always treated me like a confidant in
spite of a couple of year's age difference.
It seemed I was always far more comfortable with older and more mature
people.
Over the years I became her sounding board about boys, life, the world and
whatever else she wanted to discuss.
When her family moved to the next state I would visit her brother
several times a year and spend time talking to her when I was in town.
After about 12 years of knowing her, when I was a junior in high school,
things suddenly changed when I drove to her home. Bear in mind that in spite of my maturity I
was always in awe of her and being her friend was about the best thing I ever
did. But I was also no fool so I was
aware my chances of ever being intimate with her, or her wanting to go out with
me, were about the same as dating Audrey Hepburn or Natalie Wood.
On this particular visit I noticed she seemed really sad and when she went
out for a walk behind her house I followed to find out the problem. By the time I caught up with her she was
sitting on a fallen tree trunk and I sat down beside her. No person that nice and beautiful deserved to
be sad so I started singing the Elvis song "Are you lonesome tonight" and to my absolute surprise she
started laughing.
I asked her if I was that bad and she said I wasn't, but it was just what
she needed to stop feeling sorry for herself.
So we talked. For hours it
seemed. She told me about all the creeps
who wanted to date her for a trophy, how insincere they were and how she wished
people could just be honest and respectful, like me.
Finally she asked what I thought of her, really thought of her. I admitted it would be impossible to give her
any objective assessment because I had been madly in love with her since I was
in 1st grade. After she stopped laughing
it took me about 20 minutes to convince her I really was hopelessly in love
with her.
As she pondered on my dilemma she acknowledged I was the only person she
could discuss anything with and never worry about being judged, she trusted me
to keep her secrets, and that I always had something intelligent or funny to make
her feel better. Why was it so easy to
talk to me she wondered? And why did I
care enough about her to try and help her if she was feeling bad or make her
laugh when she was sad?
Eventually she concluded I really did care for her. What she wanted most was to find someone who
treated her like I did. By this point I
was praying to God to let her kiss me on the cheek or something in
appreciation. Then she said why do I
need to find someone like you when I already know you?
That dangling modifier left me dangling and speechless.
Over the next year I made several trips to see her brother and her and we
spent more and more serious time together.
Hugs grew into kisses and neither of us had any interest in any other
person being part of our lives. Of
course we still had college to get through but we agreed to let our parents
know how we felt about each other before I went away to college.
One day that summer before I left for the University of Arizona
she called and said she was going to fly down where I lived in a corporate
plane from her father's company so we could tell my parents about us. Then I would drive her back home so we could
tell her parents. By now we felt so
strongly and comfortable about each other that being engaged seemed
insignificant. This was the person I
would share my life with.
No more would we have to sneak around hiding our relationship. As I waited at home for her to call and say
she landed I was listening to the music of the British invasion on the radio
when a news bulletin came on that a corporate plane had crashed a few miles
from the airport and there were no survivors.
As the weight of the world crashed down on my shoulders I just knew it was
her and my heart sank. She was gone
forever. Our secret would never be
revealed. Our life would never be shared
with each other.
I was engulfed in a darkness that seemed to suck the life out of me. I did not know what I did to deserve such a
fate and I did not understand why such a beautiful soul had to be taken from
this world when she had so much to offer.
It was not the first time the line "the saddest words of tongue or pen are these four words it might have
been" haunted me and conjured up all kinds of shattered dreams, but this
time the line was empowered like never before, and it pierced my heart like no
other event in my life.
Though I had no choice nor fault nor blame in the tragic event I took it
personal and wondered if she was gone because of me. If I had never pursued our long distance
relationship wouldn't she still be alive?
I lost my Earth Angel but in the end I guess I got my Angel in Heaven to
help watch over me and I could only hope that the Kingdom she was now in was a
far better cry than what we have here.
Many years later the passage of time seemed to lessen the anger and allow
me to realize that we are all on our own separate paths and though our paths
may cross and even run parallel for a time it does not diminish the fact we
each have our own Sacred Covenant with Divine Providence and we will depart
when our time has come.
Rather than harbor bitterness or anger over the loss of a loved one, an act
which I came to recognize as somewhat selfish, I became aware of how blessed I
was to have spent any time on this Earth in the company of an Angel.
As my memory of her shifted from the tragic conclusion of our relationship in
the ashes of a plane crash to the wonderful time we did have when we were
together, and to the beautiful hopes and dreams we shared of a life together, I
think I began to understand the real meaning of love and life.
Love is the spiritual bond
between two souls allowing them to share
both creating and creation in life and of life and it transcends the
physical world and human definitions as we discover perfect love together.
Whether you call it the Christ
consciousness or the conquering of
human ego and spiritual dualism,
perfect love is accepting co-creator
responsibility for all that is, recognizing the life force in all of creation, and giving all of your existence to caring for the gifts of creation we
experience in this life and any future existence.
Life is the record of our progress in this journey
of our soul during this existence, a stepping
stone in our Sacred Covenant leading
toward our path home.
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